Why do they stay in groups / forums that we added them to?

[Beware of Junk Psychology...]

Hi Family,

Something I've been curious about. Why do you think our exes remain in groups and / or forums that we originally introduced / added them to?

My BPDex blocked me on FB almost (2) years ago. Been like that ever since as far as I know. However, prior to that - I had added him to a FB group that I belong to. It is dedicated to memories of our hometown (where I still reside). A bunch of our mutual friends that we had as teens are also in this group. Several of them have mentioned to me how the ex has become active in this group just recently. Also added his mom!  I can't (thankfully) see anything that he does since I am blocked.

But I'm curious about why he remains in the group. He doesn't interact with any of our old friends - but he's "liking" and commenting on stuff according to them (recent behavior).  I should think that he would want to wipe out ANYTHING that would remind him of me. I'm just a little curious as to why he hasn't removed himself from the group. When he blocked me - he dumped ALL of our mutual friends from Facebook and erased any ties to our hometown.

Your thoughts on this are much appreciated!   

[lipstick]

Hi Family,

Something I've been curious about. Why do you think our exes remain in groups and / or forums that we originally introduced / added them to?

My BPDex blocked me on FB almost (2) years ago. Been like that ever since as far as I know. However, prior to that - I had added him to a FB group that I belong to. It is dedicated to memories of our hometown (where I still reside). A bunch of our mutual friends that we had as teens are also in this group. Several of them have mentioned to me how the ex has become active in this group just recently. Also added his mom!  I can't (thankfully) see anything that he does since I am blocked.

But I'm curious about why he remains in the group. He doesn't interact with any of our old friends - but he's "liking" and commenting on stuff according to them (recent behavior).  I should think that he would want to wipe out ANYTHING that would remind him of me. I'm just a little curious as to why he hasn't removed himself from the group. When he blocked me - he dumped ALL of our mutual friends from Facebook and erased any ties to our hometown.

Your thoughts on this are much appreciated!   

[Schermarhorn]

Hi Family,

Something I've been curious about. Why do you think our exes remain in groups and / or forums that we originally introduced / added them to?

My BPDex blocked me on FB almost (2) years ago. Been like that ever since as far as I know. However, prior to that - I had added him to a FB group that I belong to. It is dedicated to memories of our hometown (where I still reside). A bunch of our mutual friends that we had as teens are also in this group. Several of them have mentioned to me how the ex has become active in this group just recently. Also added his mom!  I can't (thankfully) see anything that he does since I am blocked.

But I'm curious about why he remains in the group. He doesn't interact with any of our old friends - but he's "liking" and commenting on stuff according to them (recent behavior).  I should think that he would want to wipe out ANYTHING that would remind him of me. I'm just a little curious as to why he hasn't removed himself from the group. When he blocked me - he dumped ALL of our mutual friends from Facebook and erased any ties to our hometown.

Your thoughts on this are much appreciated!   

My ex was following my Spotify playlist up to 2 weeks after we broke up. I ended up deleting the songs and renaming it to something a little immature in retrospect, but she unfollowed after that.

She then ended up saving or favoriting things I shown her on multiple things, it really confuses me.

She blocks me to where I am out of sight, out of mind... .yet she leaves bits and pieces like that, seemingly on purpose.

[antelope]

it gives them identity... .fleeting and superficial, but nevertheless meaningful

[Pretty Woman]

To keep tabs. I removed mine from everything.

Even Facebook. I deleted and blocked her and she was still blowing up all our mutual friends pages.

As soon as I deactivated my friends said it immediately stopped.

It's to get attention. When they don't get attention or can't keep tabs it truly drives them bonkers.

Remove him/her from your groups. If you added them in the first place you have that right.

[lipstick]

To keep tabs. I removed mine from everything.

Even Facebook. I deleted and blocked her and she was still blowing up all our mutual friends pages.

As soon as I deactivated my friends said it immediately stopped.

It's to get attention. When they don't get attention or can't keep tabs it truly drives them bonkers.

Remove him/her from your groups. If you added them in the first place you have that right.

HI Pretty Woman,

Well I'm blocked by the ex so can't remove him. Just think its weird that he's only participating in posts that I'm involved in. Maybe he thinks it will get back to me. I'll leave the group if need be.

[Pretty Woman]

Do you know what email address he uses for Facebook? I know these BPD's have a ton of emails for all their liasons   but you might be able to reverse block that way, using email. I know I was able to do that once.

[lipstick]

Do you know what email address he uses for Facebook? I know these BPD's have a ton of emails for all their liasons   but you might be able to reverse block that way, using email. I know I was able to do that once.

Well - I used to know his email addy. But to be honest - I really don't care about reverse-blocking him. I just find it weird that he's now interested in this group again. He even added his mother! My friend said it was only posts that I had previously "liked" and / or commented on. I'm always a little taken aback by his weirdness.

Thank you for your thoughts on this, though.