My ex break up with my substitute and is with someone else again?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Hello friends  

So, have 2 months I'm not contact with my ex BPD, I was not supporting over the abuse of it in my life. My ex break up with me and 2 weeks after she was dating someone else, she met this person  in an online game (final fantasy), but she still wanted to be friends and asked to me dont go out of her life. But for me it does not work, I was unable to move on with my life and let her go, I could not because I still had feelings for her but I decided block her in all the social media we shared together, then she fight with me and after spoke to all her friends and family horrible things about me that are not true.

Now after 2 months of not contact, my friend told me that she is not dating my substitute anymore and is dating someone else, all it in two months after I blocked she of my life.

My question is: Why do they do it? How?

Some days I remember about us and miss her and also I'm still in the recovery process but to her it's like I never existed?

[butterfly 27]

Hello friends  

So, have 2 months I'm not contact with my ex BPD, I was not supporting over the abuse of it in my life. My ex break up with me and 2 weeks after she was dating someone else, she met this person  in an online game (final fantasy), but she still wanted to be friends and asked to me dont go out of her life. But for me it does not work, I was unable to move on with my life and let her go, I could not because I still had feelings for her but I decided block her in all the social media we shared together, then she fight with me and after spoke to all her friends and family horrible things about me that are not true.

Now after 2 months of not contact, my friend told me that she is not dating my substitute anymore and is dating someone else, all it in two months after I blocked she of my life.

My question is: Why do they do it? How?

Some days I remember about us and miss her and also I'm still in the recovery process but to her it's like I never existed?

[rotiroti]

It's important to know that a pwBPD's actions are not meant to hurt you personally. They are constantly searching for an attachment due to the shame and lonliness they feel. Until they can get better with therapy (on their own volition) they are likely to repeat this behavior over and over again. The impulsivity and lack of identity makes it almost impossible to learn from past mistakes

[helpmewithbpd]

In the exact same position but only mine told me to stay out of her life,  but when I seen her the other day I could tell she was far from over me no matter how she acted,  or maybe I was a trigger that set her off again and I took things wrong,  all I know is I wish I never stopped to talk to her after 2 months nc,  I should never said anything more than hello.  I'm not sure how they do it but I know once I'm over this I'll probably never want to talk to her again anyway