I believe my husband has BPD.

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I'm feeling like I'm losing my mind. After 6 months of separation my husband landed on my door step crying and confessing his love. I gave in again, we talked hours, he said he finally got it and said I'm sorry everything was my fault you were never wrong I am the one with the problem. He says he began to date a woman and during there relationship she began to say them things I said and it triggered him to come back home and work it out with me. So as we talked I said in order to put us back together we need to seek help, he agreed. The next 2 weeks were bliss, I called this the idealization stage. Then it went bad again it seems he created an issue so that he could walk out again... .might I add he seems to be able to turn his love for me on and off like a light switch. But I can't and I'm left alone to put my self back together. I'm devastated. Its tons more he put me through but this all I have the energy for. But lastly, what brought me here was the article breaking up with a BPD, I have never read something so true to my relationship with my husband, that I knew was the right place to get help.

Thanks

[kamready]

I'm feeling like I'm losing my mind. After 6 months of separation my husband landed on my door step crying and confessing his love. I gave in again, we talked hours, he said he finally got it and said I'm sorry everything was my fault you were never wrong I am the one with the problem. He says he began to date a woman and during there relationship she began to say them things I said and it triggered him to come back home and work it out with me. So as we talked I said in order to put us back together we need to seek help, he agreed. The next 2 weeks were bliss, I called this the idealization stage. Then it went bad again it seems he created an issue so that he could walk out again... .might I add he seems to be able to turn his love for me on and off like a light switch. But I can't and I'm left alone to put my self back together. I'm devastated. Its tons more he put me through but this all I have the energy for. But lastly, what brought me here was the article breaking up with a BPD, I have never read something so true to my relationship with my husband, that I knew was the right place to get help.

Thanks

[enlighten me]

Hi Kamready

Welcome to the family.

It can be extremely confusing when a relationship breaks down, Especially if BPD is an issue.

I hope that you are able to find some of the answers you are looking for as well as the support that you need.

Here are some of the lessons on the leaving board.

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=136462.0

I hope these will be of some help to you.

We are here to help and support you through this. If you've any questions please don't hesitate to ask.

EM