She contacted me... now I can't get her out of my head.

[Depression = 72% of members]

So my XBPDgf called me yesterday asking how I felt when my appendix almost ruptured.  I told her and she said she was really hurting bad and had been since Saturday.  I told her she needed to go to the ER now.  She finally did and she has an abcess on her ovaries and has a nasty infection.  So she's going to be in the hospital for a little while.  She was texting me that she was scared last night.  

But today she had no problem telling me her new GF was taking care of her.  WHY DID SHE CONTACT me in the first place?  

I am so stressed.  

[seh77]

So my XBPDgf called me yesterday asking how I felt when my appendix almost ruptured.  I told her and she said she was really hurting bad and had been since Saturday.  I told her she needed to go to the ER now.  She finally did and she has an abcess on her ovaries and has a nasty infection.  So she's going to be in the hospital for a little while.  She was texting me that she was scared last night.  

But today she had no problem telling me her new GF was taking care of her.  WHY DID SHE CONTACT me in the first place?  

I am so stressed.  

[Pretty Woman]

Attention. Just to talk.

I have witnessed this with ex contacting the ex before me... .just a few months into our relationship looking for advice on how to change a fuse. When I think about all the smack my ex talked about this woman, how she was a "sex addicted stalker" I am shocked she actually walked her through the process of changing my fuse and my house didn't catch on fire!

They like to know you are there for them in some way. They can abandon you but not the other way around. It's their selfish needs being met... .none of your needs, just theirs.

That's why I strongly believe in NC. It's not for everyone but all they do is use people. For me, I am done being used. She wasn't there when I was clutching a pillow, bawling, wanting to die when she discarded me like garbage. They don't know the meaning of being a real friend. They aren't capable.


PW

[Mutt]

Hi seh77,

I'm sorry to hear that. I can see how stressful this would all be  I agree with Pretty Woman with attention seeking behavior, a pwBPD fear being alone and have abandonment fears imagined or real and may self harm, act out and feel distraught if they are not getting attention.

[seh77]

 

Pretty Woman and Mutt,

Thank you so much for your encouraging words.  I really needed that.   

Today has been an extremely rough day.  She called/texted me about her issues.  Then I received a text from my son saying that he was hiding because his school was on lock down and it wasn't a drill.  Thankfully the students and staff are all OK.  Some person had a weapon in her vehicle in the parking lot.  So I have been so stressed today and really can't think very straight right now. 


I don't wish her ill but I do wish I could forget about her. 

[Mutt]

A lock down would be very scary  I'm happy to hear your son and everyone's safe

[Invictus01]

To be honest, I wouldn't try to make too much sense out of what she does. No way to tell what's going on with her, she probably doesn't know herself. For some reason, they all like to collect an army of ex who they can potentially bug with their nonsense... .and then leave behind when they are done.