Seems I spoke too soon

[Corgicuddler95]

I expect she will stay away for sometime and I'm ok with that. I need months to truely detatch from it and she needs to get serious help, not that I think I'll ever be able to trust her again.

I guess right now I'm just worried about how she might paint me to our mutual friends, though I trust most of them. Hopefully it won't be a problem, I've talked to a lot of people about the break up but I've gone out of my way to not try to make her seem like the villain.

[Corgicuddler95]

Since she also mentioned finding my behaviour "terrifying" and tweeted not long before block me about being afraid, I fear for some reason she sees me a threat which has no basis.

[oletimefeelin]

I am curious how things were left with her that the next day you're checking in to find out how her day is going.  :)id you assume you were trying to get back together?  Trying to be friends?  It reads like one of these.  If so, you need to lay back and let her come to you some.

I tried to make it clear that I was trying to move on but also stay in touch. She seemed to understand that.[/quote]
Yeah, so, don't straddle the fence.  It's good practice in life, but even more so when dealing with a borderline. Move on but stay in touch is a confusing message.  Especially so for someone who can't process emotions like your ex.

[myself]

Corgi... .Most if not all of your friends will know who you really are, and would take what she said during a break up period with a huge grain of salt. Knowing you're not some kind of 'monster', to her or anyone. My ex would also say things like she was "scared", which seemed like a catch-all phrase meaning, "I'm freaking out and it can't be me that's the reason so it must be you I need to run from/blame." What are pwBPD really afraid of? Intimacy. Who's more scary in that kind of situation than the person who is/was (trying to be) closest to them? Keep believing in yourself while detaching.