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October 05, 2015, 12:54:57 PM »
This was probably not the right thing to do. My therapist advised against it. But it's been on my keychain and I have no need for it so I mailed it back to her. I think deep down I am also hoping maybe for a response. Not sure why though . I've been doing fine no contact . Opinions welcome.
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I did something similar. All I know is it made my ex wife flip out.
I would stand by for drama.
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Oh boy really? We shall see. It was mailed Sunday so probably will get it tues or wed. She has mine and other stuff including my gold PBA cards and good industrial vacuum. I want them back but not willing to break nc.
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Im not saying it will happen but it could trigger a response. If it does just try to stay calm. Don't get drawn into an argument over it.
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What did your ex do?
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She didn't do anything to me but I had her mum on the phone in tears about how she has lost the plot and is raging. If it wasn't for the fact there is something happening that means she will not contact me I think I would have had both barrels from her. I still may get the repercussions as she is threatening to take me to court. Im sure she will use it to add to her anger.
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Oh wow I see.
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Returning things out of the blue can trigger abandonment. Theres no way of knowing how they will react. Things like this are best done with warning. Ive learnt from my mistake.
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Oh well. I think she triggered abandonment when she dumped me over the phone. Good riddance .
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October 05, 2015, 05:14:46 PM »
Bigmd, that's funny.
I returned my BPD partners house key after I was accused of stealing some PS2 games for my son after calling her for permission first. I took 4, she accused me of taking 8.
Even after another 18 months she has not suggested for me to have it and I haven't asked... .nor has she stopped the accusations, just the ones about the PS2 games.
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Haha thanks John . She still has mine. I posted a few weeks ago when I thought she was in my house.
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