Note writing and the high significance to that

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Has anyone experienced a partner with a personality disorder who places emphasis on note writing and the high significance to that. My udh who I am separated from tells me go back and read my notes.  As if words on paper are more significant that actions or that they make up for hurtful behaviors automatically.  That there is no need to resolve a conflict and acknowledge inappropriate behaviors if there is notes with positive comments about beauty land how much I am loved.  He thinks my words when I am trying to get him to understand  me are negative and hateful. Anyone?

[Greeceheidired]

Has anyone experienced a partner with a personality disorder who places emphasis on note writing and the high significance to that. My udh who I am separated from tells me go back and read my notes.  As if words on paper are more significant that actions or that they make up for hurtful behaviors automatically.  That there is no need to resolve a conflict and acknowledge inappropriate behaviors if there is notes with positive comments about beauty land how much I am loved.  He thinks my words when I am trying to get him to understand  me are negative and hateful. Anyone?

[JohnLove]

Yes. Why just the other night after things got heated she tore a page from inside a notepad that had a message of love she was hoping for me to find... .but hadn't yet. It was dated. She offered that as proof while she was "hating" on me. Ahh... .good times. I knew what she meant by it, although she has a real problem expressing herself and her needs.