Another Chapter (hopefully the last of this book)

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

 

So, the past two weeks have had it's ups and downs.  My XBPDGF called me because she no longer wanted the cat that we had gotten while together.  Her D8 let it slip that the cat chased her new GFs dog.  She then tried telling me that the cat was getting sick every morning and other things.  Well I have had the cat a week now with no issues! She never has asked about the cat that she loved.  I do so believe this has been the straw to break the camel's back so to speak.  I knew how she was but I honestly think this completely opened my eyes and squashed whatever feelings I did have for her.

I feel like a HUGE weight has lifted off my shoulders.  I do wish her well in her life but am so happy that I will not be a part of it.

  Here's to hoping everyone has a GREAT day. 

[seh77]

 

So, the past two weeks have had it's ups and downs.  My XBPDGF called me because she no longer wanted the cat that we had gotten while together.  Her D8 let it slip that the cat chased her new GFs dog.  She then tried telling me that the cat was getting sick every morning and other things.  Well I have had the cat a week now with no issues! She never has asked about the cat that she loved.  I do so believe this has been the straw to break the camel's back so to speak.  I knew how she was but I honestly think this completely opened my eyes and squashed whatever feelings I did have for her.

I feel like a HUGE weight has lifted off my shoulders.  I do wish her well in her life but am so happy that I will not be a part of it.

  Here's to hoping everyone has a GREAT day. 

[cyclistIII]

I feel like this post should be added as a response to every one of us who asks "what did I do wrong that made him/her stop loving me?" Unless they want to argue that the CAT did something wrong... .

[seh77]

And now the truth has come out.  She is getting married to a girl that she's only known for 3 months.  Already moved her in and all.  Now she has told me that I can no longer have contact with her D8.  Who I have been a part of her life since she was 18 months old.  That she needs to give her GF a chance and it's not fair if I am still there for D8.  I knew it would come to this, it still breaks my heart.  I can't have kids and always treated her like she was mine.    She is the only thing I miss from the relationship.   

So today I start a new book in my life.

[Mutt]

Hi seh77,

I'm sorry to hear that. I haven't seen my SD for close to 3 years for similar reasons. Poor D8, that's heartbreaking to hear, I understand how we develop a parent / child bond with a step child and a child develops a bond with us?

A number of things may happen, you may see her again?

[seh77]

I doubt I will see her again.  I gave her a HUGE hug yesterday and did my best to not cry in front of her and told her I would always love her and be there for her if she ever needed me.  All the while my X is walking behind me saying she's moving on blah blah blah blah.  She's used me for the last time. Her water and Internet was still in my name but as of Today that is no longer an option.  I told her since she is moving on and that all of my belongings are out of the house that she can get her own utilities.  Not sure if she really thought I was going to do that.

I do wish her well.  But I will no longer be jerked around by her and her games.

Here's to the first day of my New Life without the worry, the constant fighting, the jealousy, the push/pull and all of the manipulation.