Hey fellow suffers... .to sum up... I was married for 30 years... .now waiting for divorce to be final from wife... .separated now for 16 months... .everything i read fits,my relationship with her . Only she had gained over 100,lbs since married and i,walked on eggshells for last 30 years... I,left her... .My eyes,were opened, on last confrontation. Took lots of courage to leave but leaving did,not outweigh risks of staying. .
... .I have been in recovery from addiction from drugs,for 16 years and finally free from her. When i left 16,months ago,didn't know what i was leaving just thought she was a,mean angry woman,who,couldn't connect with emotionally. In fact,when i left,her i,read articles with wifes who had resentment and,mine,had a truck load long before we met. Just this weekend i have been reading article's on borderline personality. This is her no doubt. It has been a great relief And blessings to have a name with it. Alot of the,suggestions were things,i have already been,doing and it was great to understand all the,emotions i am feeling are very natural to people who lived and have left spouses with BPD. It is good to be connected with people who understand what i,feel,and have been, through. I feel great. But divorce court is,coming in 3,weeks,finally. I keep thinking she will change when i left but the,sad,truth from what I havs read here and experience in my own,life is she,will,not. I need,to protect myself always from her. That is,the,greatest truth to me. It is,also,good that i have,looked at myself to understand why i,stayed in emotionally abusive relationship to long when,i,did 90,percent of the,work,in,that, relationship. .tks
