Why has destroyed me and continues to destroy any fond memories of her, she is telling people horrific lies about me and our relationship. What will she likely do. Do you think one day she may realise she was wrong and apologise.
Man I can relate, going through a divorce and she just wont stop pushing the boundaries as far as she can which is forcing legal action and thereby destroying my fond memories.
Regarding your question "do you think she will realize . . . "; it is part of the nature of the disorder to make emotionally driven decisions. How that eventually unfolds is impossible for them or us to know.
I am swallowing real hard right now moving forward with legal action. I know she is ripped angry and this makes me want to stop proceeding in the name of salvaging memories, but I cannot make decisions which are healthy for me based on what I hope will not rub her the wrong way.
It hurts like hell and I sometimes fantasize that 3-4 years down the road she will understand (and of course be all cured and want to reconnect with me

) but the reality is, as of this moment I doubt she will ever realize anything.
Besides, why would I have this hope? Like most of her feelings, it is not based in reality