Times like these ... their grief and upset ... really don't help when you're trying to detach ... makes me wonder if the Universe is against the decision to detach.
No, but she sure is. When it's time to detach, it will only be her doing the detaching, and it will be completely on her terms. That's how it has to work for her.
And yes, they will make even the most horrible things about them. My wife and I see the same thing happen with my ex-wife. My eldest child, now an adult, finds himself hurt or in trouble, and my ex somehow makes it about her, soliciting sympathy and even crying to my wife about it (which is a tad awkward!).
I tell you one thing... .even physically breaking away from a person like this is extremely difficult. When I finally broke it off with my uBPD ex, it took four months to get her to move out. Four. Even with legal help. It was insane.
Can you talk to the landlord about maybe finding someone else to temporarily move in until the lease runs out -you know, to take your spot? Or even if you continue to pay your rent, is there maybe a friend you can move in with for a time, just to get away? If you can't, then wow, please do what you can to avoid the emotional interactions. She will pull you in, and if she wants, suddenly she'll have called the cops. It is a precarious position to be in, indeed. Whether it's for a full-blown argument, or to call you (as you sleep in another room) in the middle of the night to cry to you, she will definitely try to keep you on the hook, emotionally. :)uring my four month survival period, I did everything I could to stay out of the home until I needed to return just for sleep. That's it. I hung out all over town, went to the park, walked in the woods, sat at coffee shops, had lunch dates with friends, you name it.
