pwBPD and dating web sites

[alwaysloving]

I'm very curious about this... I met mine on POF... dating for a few months about the 4-5 month was the push-pull... then a phone call saying I'm thinking about giving you another chance... .

OK lets put that all aside... the first time we met in person she said "I finally met the guy I'm looking for and I can take down my profile" well she never did... and the next few dates she never did... however about 2 weeks ago she took it down or disabled it... I was a bit shocked... so now shes dating this guy and shes like I love you... it's odd he has not responded but has posted other stuff... the picture pose was a little subjective... I never posed with her with my hand on her breast.

But I was wondering why finally taking down the dating profile? her words out of her mouth to me many of times was she likes her freedom, shes insecure and she has trust issues... and she does not want to get into a relationship because she always has to make time for the person and she does not want to feel like she always has to be doing whatever he wants... but yet she posts I love you? Now granted she has said the same to me in person but sometimes she will be like "don't say it back" Or if I say it first she will say please don't say that... perhaps it's just the newness of the relationship? But the removal of the profile has me a little worried.

[once removed]

hey mikecl 

i dont have any experience with the online dating world, though most of my friends do. seems to me people are pretty fickle with social media accounts these days. on any given day, someone is deactivating then reactivating their facebook account; same as the dating accounts.

i wouldnt read too much into it. are you worried that things are going "well" with the new partner and doubting yourself?

[SummerStorm]

Social media and dating sites are just games to most people, not even just pwBPD. 

Mine only uses Tinder.  I will sometimes use it and then delete my account.  A few months later, I will activate it again.  I don't think she ever deletes her account, but I do think she turns off discovery mode when she's in a relationship.  Then, as soon as it ends, she changes her profile description, adds new pictures, and puts it in discovery mode again. 

I'm almost tempted to try an experiment the next time I find out that she's gotten out of a relationship.  I'm going to reactivate my account as soon as I find out and then see how long it takes her to contact me.  I'm guessing less than an hour. 

[alwaysloving]

hey mikecl  

i dont have any experience with the online dating world, though most of my friends do. seems to me people are pretty fickle with social media accounts these days. on any given day, someone is deactivating then reactivating their facebook account; same as the dating accounts.

i wouldnt read too much into it. are you worried that things are going "well" with the new partner and doubting yourself?

Yes concerned because well I know she has dated after we went on dates and we agreed but like my date and the few other guys she never deleted her profile... now this time she has... and it's interesting... her tagged her on facebook but the picture of them being close is not on her wall because she has not accepted the tag... for one her mother and father are friends and shes not going to allow that... at least that way the picture was taken (his hand on her breast) I had more class to just take a selfie with me kissing her cheek...

Now it makes it interesting because I'm curious if it's going to play out like I think...

Mine she told me to go out and see other girls... and she has said things like why do you like me so much and so on but when she found out my dating profile oh man she text me saying your not going to find another (insert her name) like me!