The craving is kicking in--middle of day 4 NC

[hollycat]

The addiction is kicking in. I want to reach out via text. The physical pull to the phone is strong. Help

[thisworld]

Hey Hollycat

It's great that you came here first, before contacting this person. The same craving is going on in the thread To Block or Unblock below and someone shared this page for help. It has a questionnaire about NC that may be helpful right now, and some meditation.

www.letmereach.com/2013/12/11/the-no-contact-7-day-challenge-quitting-your-narcissist/

If you don't want to do that right now, would you like to tell us why your relationship ended with this person? What were the nasty things he did to you? In what ways did he hurt you? What did you not like about your relationship?


Also, are you in a position right now to do some physical exercise? Cycling, running, something to discharge that energy?

Lots of hugs,

[La Carotte]

hollycat- you gave me such good support and advice yesterday and earlier today... .Please please read what you said to me and listen to yourself!

You can do this! You are one of the people who has helped me keep strong on my first day of NC and so I know you can do this for yourself... .

Big hugs

FIT

[burritoman]

Yup, been there myself. About 3 days into NC I got the urge HARD to contact her. I tried every way to justify it in my mind. I instead reached out to my sister first, and she basically said "WHY do you want to contact her?" I thought about it and realized... .I don't know why, I just do. That's not a good reason, and I suspect that's the reason most of us would come up with. Once you get past those urges you realize that NC is the best thing for yourself and you'll have no desire to contact. Stay strong.

[hollycat]

So far, so strong. I weathered this craving. It really helped to hear I helped someone. Thanks, FIT! 

Here is how I did it:

I remembered I did indeed feel satisfied I had said all I wanted to say. Nothing else left to JADE or discuss.

I reviewed a few texts and I see where I invited him for Christmas and he has a choice: come to Florida or stay in SC hell. His decision; he is an adult (51 yo).

I would very much like to resuscitate some kind of dignity and self esteem; contact now would look like begging and I really want to avoid that.

I was busy working today and will be busy tomorrow.

[blackbirdsong]

I kept her old text messages. Before, when I wanted to contact her I would read those messages. There are very nice messages that remind me of great times. But I also find the bad ones, and they remind me that NC is the right thing to do.