Form flier posted something in my last thread I didn't get a chance to respond to
Please don't worry so much about others perceptions, or my perception of you. Slow down, focus on the content, don't worry about others perceptions. It's not right or wrong, black or white. I am advising you to stake a step towards more health, more stability, more strength. Very different that saying you have none. Think of it as going to the gym. You already have muscles, you need (want) to make them stronger. More stability, more emotional health is good for anyone. It is critical if you are going to stay in a r/s with a pwBPD traits. You will have to lead. You do that by keeping your side of the street clean. Show them (the pwBPD) the path to better regulation of their emotions by living an example for them. This is hard stuff. Important stuff. It's a journey we are all on. I look forward to cheering you on as you take consistent steps in the direction of stability and health.
Tonight the pwBPD hung up on me because I stood up to him when he told me I was correcting him. Yesterday he told me I was overreacting to him when I chose to turn off my Facebook timeline.( I lost a friend in the past over his criticism of me, she couldn't deal with the depth of my issues with him. I'm still hurt by that )
I've realized that I need to come clean with my clergy person about the changes I've made in the relationship. I had talked with my clergy person about the person I am with having BPD traits and being married.
I wanted to let form flier know that I was still thinking about his post and since my original post was locked, I needed to create a new topic.
Thank you . It's late so I apologize if this doesn't make sense.
