Hey
cloudten... .. Hmm, I'd sought therapy for depression and anxiety a few years before initially posting here (without having heard the word "codependence"... .then).
As seems to be quite common amongst some members I arrived at bpdfamily.com during a particularly bewildering experience/breakup with a partner I believe displayed symptoms of BPD. My intial aim was to use the knowledge gained here to save the relationship and 'help' my partner/ex. . Fantastic support and contributions allowed me to realise the futility of that approach... .and more importantly to focus on my motives for wanting to!
Recovery is a work in progress... .I have healthier boundaries now, and a better understanding of how my FOO dynamic contributed to my destructive patterns of behaviour in adulthood... .This seems to have been key in managing depression/anxiety and I'm very discerning about who I associate with now after researching cluster B disorders.
Progress seemed incredibly slow at first... .but after a lifetime of thinking/feeling/acting a certain way any change takes time. I'd have to look back at my first post to be definitive as to when I arrived here... .but I know I'd find that man unrecognisible to me now
