Questions about male BPD's and Babies

[Herodias]

Hi, does anyone have any experience with a male BPD and his baby? I am wondering how they handle this... .do they get jealous of the mothers time with the child? In "normal" relationships I think I have read that men can feel left out when a Mother spends so much time with the child... .but what about Male BPD's - I would think this is more extreme... .Also, do they tend to want to control the baby? Do they still want to control how you and how you handle the baby? Does it make them change in any way... .I am very curious if it would make them "grow up" and be more responsible... ?

[SweetCharlotte]

My "babies" are 12 and 18 and they predate my long-distance r/s with my uBPDh, but yes, he wants to control them and how I interact with them. He frequently faults me for not giving him authority over them, for not disciplining them effectively when they disrespect him, and for spending too much money on purchases and activities for them.

I suspect that ladies with actual babies and a BPDh might be too busy to answer your question.