Almost 5 months out and still thinking about the red flags

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Ok guys I'm approaching 5 months post break up with my exgf who has many BPD traits. The last week or so I've been feeling a little down an sad,and kinda missing her. But I was also thinking about things she said or did that are just registering to me now as red flags. Besides the obvious ,rages and her favorite ,silent treatment. There was the fact that she never apologized or said she was sorry for anything. Not just to me but anyone in her life . She even told me she never says sorry. I remember in one of our fights I apologized. She said sorry doesn't mean anything to her.

     Another flag was she told me early on that once someone gets her mad, that's it , she cuts them off. I've seen it too. She did it with her best friend numerous times. Also she hadn't talked to her brother in years. And at the end of our relationship she stopped talking to her mom.

       Often when having sex ,usually after a silent treatment episode she would beg me never to be with anyone else. She would tell me no one would ever care about me like she did. Lol I believed her. She would ask if I was with anyone when we weren't talking. Wtf I wonder if that meant she was with someone.

      She forbid me from talking to a mutual female friend of ours.

      She had a huge problem with my ex wife and the way she moved on so fast with her now husband. I never understood it.

       For Christmas last year I got her a ton of stuff, more than what she wanted but all she could do was complain about the gold cross I got her and how small it was. She never even wore it.

       For her trip to Colombia I told her I would pay for half. When it came time for her to go she was very stressed out. I offered to pay for whole thing. She texted me back asking since when am I so generous?( I paid for everything) and she asked me where I was when she was struggling ? Which I never understood.

         Blew up on me me for texting a pic of a ring I got her to her oldest daughter. I was just asking her what she thought . And it was a dumb promise ring I got that she wanted. But she mad me feel like crap. Saying her daughter doesn't need to to know our business. Mind you she never had a problem before with me texting her daughter whom I did a lot of stuff for.

        And lastly I got her a car service to take her to airport for her trip to Colombia . When I made the reservation I got the times wrong. When she got the confirmation and saw it was wrong she texted me and blew up. Ultimately telling me she would do it herself.

        Thinking now too as we got closer to selling my house and getting engaged was when the rages , fights ,and silent treatment got worse and happened more often. I'm wondering If this may have been engulfment to her. When I decided to sell my house and we would redo hers. She thought it was the best idea. Than a few weeks later over dinner she tells me that she has 80,000 dollars tied up in the house that was from her ex husband as a gift to her kids. She said she wasn't sure if she would be able to use it as equity. I thought it sounded weird but told her we would work through it. I asked her to talk to a lawyer to see what she could do but she never did. In our last arguments she told me that I got pissed off when she told me this news, which I didn't.

         One more thing. She was really up her oldest daughters ass all the time. Even cutting our dates short to go home to be with her. Is that a BPD thing?