It's over, and now she wants money.

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My ex and I have been over for three months now, we have been LC since then. The times we did get in touch, were pretty neutral times, we concluded a conversation with no regrets, and we shall remain acquaintances and have a normal healthy Break up. But something happened over the last few weeks, and my ex has been harassing me with angry blaming remarks via email and text. I guess her denial stage is over, and now she's into the anger stage. She had given me an expensive gift in the past, now wants it back in the money form. She does not want the gift back, she has no use for it, but she wants the money. She says that would hurt me more. I had been helping her with money all the time, I had spent thousands of dollars on this woman. She has no acknowledgment of any of that, she's got many gifts as well that I did not ask for back. I realize that when I was in a relationship, I was in love with this woman and she deserved those gifts at that time. She should keep them. But to her, I'm not worthy of anything she had given me, and she wants her money back "now". I'm the type of person that hates drama commotions, I hate angry text and emails, and I do anything to stop it. So I give her what she wanted and I asked that she shall not contact me again. She agreed. I was wondering if any of you had similar interaction. My ex now blames everything bad her life on me, she says that she does not have BPD, and that she went to a real doctor to confirm that. I'm a physician myself, and I'm sure that she has  BPD, she had met 10 criteria, And we went through them together. She has the background experiences to predispose her to the illness as well. Maybe she lied about going to someone professional. Maybe she just said that to annoy me. I hate the feeling that I had to pay money to shut her up. I know that if I block her, She would harass me. She would probably come to my work, my home, and I have to follow restraining order etc. etc. So avoid that, I paid her what she wanted. Any similar experiences out there? This relationship was pretty expensive. I really learned my lesson for future ones. I am so hurt when I think that she hates me with passion right now, the same person that was thanking me for my support a few weeks ago is hating me now. The same person that said I was her Rock while we were together tells me that I am the worst thing that ever happened to her. She blames her car accident on me, because we were going to get a massage together and it was my idea. Basically she blames all her issues on me, Including her job that she left because she was unhappy at that time, now she says she left it for a chance to be with me. I have been doing so well for the past few months until she started getting angry, I was thinking she is very happy in an idealization stage at this point, but apparently, She has been accumulating bitterness and anger over the past few weeks.  I just hope she stays away for me this time. I had no idea that someone come love you so much one day, And then hate you so much another day.

[Freeatlast_1]

My ex and I have been over for three months now, we have been LC since then. The times we did get in touch, were pretty neutral times, we concluded a conversation with no regrets, and we shall remain acquaintances and have a normal healthy Break up. But something happened over the last few weeks, and my ex has been harassing me with angry blaming remarks via email and text. I guess her denial stage is over, and now she's into the anger stage. She had given me an expensive gift in the past, now wants it back in the money form. She does not want the gift back, she has no use for it, but she wants the money. She says that would hurt me more. I had been helping her with money all the time, I had spent thousands of dollars on this woman. She has no acknowledgment of any of that, she's got many gifts as well that I did not ask for back. I realize that when I was in a relationship, I was in love with this woman and she deserved those gifts at that time. She should keep them. But to her, I'm not worthy of anything she had given me, and she wants her money back "now". I'm the type of person that hates drama commotions, I hate angry text and emails, and I do anything to stop it. So I give her what she wanted and I asked that she shall not contact me again. She agreed. I was wondering if any of you had similar interaction. My ex now blames everything bad her life on me, she says that she does not have BPD, and that she went to a real doctor to confirm that. I'm a physician myself, and I'm sure that she has  BPD, she had met 10 criteria, And we went through them together. She has the background experiences to predispose her to the illness as well. Maybe she lied about going to someone professional. Maybe she just said that to annoy me. I hate the feeling that I had to pay money to shut her up. I know that if I block her, She would harass me. She would probably come to my work, my home, and I have to follow restraining order etc. etc. So avoid that, I paid her what she wanted. Any similar experiences out there? This relationship was pretty expensive. I really learned my lesson for future ones. I am so hurt when I think that she hates me with passion right now, the same person that was thanking me for my support a few weeks ago is hating me now. The same person that said I was her Rock while we were together tells me that I am the worst thing that ever happened to her. She blames her car accident on me, because we were going to get a massage together and it was my idea. Basically she blames all her issues on me, Including her job that she left because she was unhappy at that time, now she says she left it for a chance to be with me. I have been doing so well for the past few months until she started getting angry, I was thinking she is very happy in an idealization stage at this point, but apparently, She has been accumulating bitterness and anger over the past few weeks.  I just hope she stays away for me this time. I had no idea that someone come love you so much one day, And then hate you so much another day.

[Herodias]

Yes, mine goes back and forth over hating me or not. Now that he has someone else who he thinks won't leave him, he doesn't care about me and plays like it was all my fault he did all that he did. Sorry you are going through this. You have to cut off the money flow. Mine kept asking until I said no. Then I got the silent treatment. That's best. Hope you get the strength to do it. It's hard to let go of these people because you feel so responsible for them. They made you believe they need you, but there is always someone willing to step in. Wish it were as easy for us. I truly believe if we met someone we liked as much as them,without all the drama, we'd be perfectly happy. They just won't be. They'll never stop using you if you let them.