Help for a teen with BPD mom

[20yearslater]

Hi everyone,

I'm pretty sure that my son's girlfriend (17 years old) is dealing with a uBPD mom. (I feel like something of an expert, having dealt with a BPD mother-in-law and husband, and now a daughter who has begun to exhibit some BPD behaviors.)

The GF already has tremendous anxiety and has begun to contemplate suicide. From what I understand, she has been seeing a prescribing psychiatrist for Prozac every month or so, but is not getting any regular (i.e. weekly) therapy. I'm going to give her some books on BPD and try to find her some therapeutic support.

Wondering if anyone has any suggestions for additional help. Is there an online community for teens dealing with BPD parents or something else I can refer her to?

Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!

[ReclaimingMyLife]

The link below looks interesting because classes are online and have a sliding scale.  While DBT is often used to treat the pwBPD, I think the skills it offers would be good for EVERYONE.  They seem like really good life skills that we all would do well to learn and use. I am thinking of signing up myself. 

Maybe this could help your son's gf.  I am sorry she is struggling so much and am glad she has you!

www.emotionallysensitive.com/

[Turkish]

You're doing a good thing by supporting her, especially since you have personal experience. Try these resources:

www.teenhelp.org

Your Life Your Voice

www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/AskIt/Pages/default.aspx

1-800-448-3000

www.youthcrisisline.org/

As for the suicide ideation, this sounds tough, like she feels hopeless. You can certainly practice your validation skills that you know here. You may want to pass this onto your son, as well as looking at the SI info in the red Emergency button at the bottom of every thread. "You have so much to live for... ." or the like is invalidating, right? If you know this, you can coach your son and others in her life.

I remember feeling like this as a teen and having no one to talk to, or I felt safe with to tell them how I really felt. Good that she has you