Hi Lcat92
Dealing with a BPD parent can be very difficult indeed. I am sorry your mother is treating you this way. How did you find out about BPD and that this is the disorder your mother seems to have?
It is very unpleasant being subjected to verbal and emotional abuse. It sounds like your mother is engaging in the BPD-behavior known as 'projection':
In general, emotionally healthy people base their perceptions on facts. Projection is basing your perception of reality on feelings.
Projection is a defense mechanism, operating unconsciously, in which what is emotionally unacceptable in the self is unconsciously rejected and attributed (projected) to others. Projection is denying one's own unpleasant traits, behaviors, or feelings by attributing them, often in an accusing way, to someone else.
Does this description to you sound like what your mother is doing?
You mention things have been getting worse. Did anything happen in particular that you can remember that preceded or coincided with her behavior getting worse?
Take care and welcome to bpdfamily