My ex keeps moving

[past-the-storm]

My estranged wife has moved home something like 10+ times in the last decade since I've known her and many more times before . It seems as she eventually paints black the people living near her (family/me/friends/ex partners) she then moves on to be near her newly idealised or lesser devalued people in her life in other parts of the country.

My question is,have other members here experienced their former partners with BPD following this pattern? I am really curious to know if this is a common thing for them.

[patientandclear]

Yes. About every two years. Jobs and places.

[greenmonkey]

My uBPD ex was constantly on the move - she was unable to have any stability in her life.

Once our relationship ended she reverted back to her old pattern of moving every 3-6 months. To my knowledge in approx 15 months she has moved 6 times.

[hopealways]

Hmm interesting never thought about this before but yes mine did also. It is part of the unstable sense of self. Just like they run away from us they run away from where they live.

[GoingBack2OC]

Never really realized it but yes.  My ex-girlfriend and I were together almost 5 years. In that time: 

Apartment when we met. 6 Months

Lived with me - 1 Year

Moved Out Needed Space - 1 Year

Moved Back In - 3 Months

Moved Back Out Wanted Closer to Work - 2 Years

If you track back (before i knew her) I'd gather: 

1 Year after college at parents

College.

So in 7 Years. 7 Total Moves.

Is that a lot?  Also; she just got fired (in December; and now will likely have to move - she moved into a place she really shouldnt have - and told me in 4 months she will be broke). So I guess now 7 years 8 homes.

I've lived in my home for 8 years, and my prior home was 5.

[C.Stein]

I think the moving is many times about running away from themselves.  It is an attempt to "wipe the slate clean".  This is not something unique to pwBPD.  My ex seemed to believe that she can "start over" in a new location.  I told her that while the landscape might change you will not.  You cannot run away from yourself and the problems within yourself now will follow you no matter where you go.   This is something I learned the hard way.

Oh ... .and my ex is planning on moving out of the area if she hasn't already.