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« on: January 18, 2016, 11:59:14 AM »

It has been at least eighteen months since she ditched me without mercy for another. As suggested here I went NC to free myself from the hurt of it all.  I recovered and forgave. She once threatened to never contact me unless I responded to her texts. I didn't respond. Still I would get a contact every few months via email and I started to respond in a neutral way - out of compassion really and a bit of curiosity. They would be brief exchanges of nothing important and then nothing for months.  Recently we exchanged emails again and she told me she was engaged to her present boyfriend. I really find it strange to tell me that when she knows I am happy in another relationship and I never contact her unless she makes contact. I said it was great news and wished her much happiness. She is yet to divorce her existing husband.  :)o you think she was trying to make me jealous?

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« Reply #1 on: January 18, 2016, 06:30:44 PM »

Do you think she was trying to make me jealous?

hard to say. an engagement is big news for anyone, so i dont consider it unreasonable let alone necessarily malicious. it sounds like she considers you a friend and keeps you updated on some level. if she knows youre happy and in another relationship, i dont see why shed try to make you jealous. its possible making you jealous was an underlying motive, whether it was conscious or not is impossible to say.
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