Hard Day

[Eyeamme]

Today is my 34yo uBPD daughters 34th birthday. We are NC. My heart hurts.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[understandnow]

I am so sorry Eyeamme.  BPD causes so much pain for families.  Just know that we understand.

[Eyeamme]

Thanks understandnow. It helps to know that.

[wendydarling]

Hi Eyeamme, we are here with you all the way   WDx

[Kwamina]

That's tough indeed

Acceptance is hard enough as it is and on days such as this it's particularly hard.

How are you feeling today Eyeamme?

[Eyeamme]

Thanks Wendydarlng and Kwamina. I am trying to practice Mindfulness :--)

[ProfDaddy]

T I am trying to practice Mindfulness :--)

Sorry for your pain.  I have found that mindfulness is helpful -- sometimes it is the only way to stop my own cycle of reactions, remorse, doubt, and self-judgment.  Have you read any Pema Chodron?

[Eyeamme]

ProfDaddy, I will read Pema Chodron. I am very much trying hard with Mindfulness. Thanks!

[ProfDaddy]

Pema Chodron's book "When Things Fall Apart" is a good one to start. Her teachings have helped me through some rocky times, but they're not for everyone.  I hope you find reliable sources of comfort and perspective.  

[Eyeamme]

Thanks. Same to you.