thrown under the bus

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I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 years and gf has been insecure and jealous throughout relationship... blowing up if I look at anyone or have any type of relationship /friendship with a female. She will be kind and nice and then turn on a dime accusing me, she's crossed my boundaries looking thru my email/text/facebook with out permission and then using against me later.  She was sexually abused by father and was sold into child prostitution as a teenager.  She has night terrors and has never talked to anyone about it.  I have been faithful for 2 years and its never good enough. She broke up with me via text ...   yes she was broken up with me before... it like Dr. Jekyl Mr. Hyde and she's always the victim.  I hate you,come back.  I have never talked to any of her ex's but she became friends with mine, although I wasn't allowed to because of her insane jealousy. I came back from a trip with my older sister last summer and she freaked out and made me feel like crap | bc I didn't call her when we landed.  I admit I am codependent, father was a recovering alcoholic and I am in alanon.  She was an alcoholic sober for 10 years when we meet but decided to start drinking socially last summer.  I have talked to AA friend of hers who has know her for several years and realize that this has been a pattern.  After watching video and signs, I realize what I'm up against.  I could you some advice. thanks

[exhausted16]

I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 years and gf has been insecure and jealous throughout relationship... blowing up if I look at anyone or have any type of relationship /friendship with a female. She will be kind and nice and then turn on a dime accusing me, she's crossed my boundaries looking thru my email/text/facebook with out permission and then using against me later.  She was sexually abused by father and was sold into child prostitution as a teenager.  She has night terrors and has never talked to anyone about it.  I have been faithful for 2 years and its never good enough. She broke up with me via text ...   yes she was broken up with me before... it like Dr. Jekyl Mr. Hyde and she's always the victim.  I hate you,come back.  I have never talked to any of her ex's but she became friends with mine, although I wasn't allowed to because of her insane jealousy. I came back from a trip with my older sister last summer and she freaked out and made me feel like crap | bc I didn't call her when we landed.  I admit I am codependent, father was a recovering alcoholic and I am in alanon.  She was an alcoholic sober for 10 years when we meet but decided to start drinking socially last summer.  I have talked to AA friend of hers who has know her for several years and realize that this has been a pattern.  After watching video and signs, I realize what I'm up against.  I could you some advice. thanks

[C.Stein]

Hello, 

It is tough dealing with the constant flip-flop of emotions.  It leaves you so confused and hurt you don't know what is up or down anymore.  The double standards are quite frustrating to say the least and the projection that occurs can severely erode your self-confidence and self-esteem until you feel like a shadow of your former self.

Now that you are out it is time to focus on you.  What can you do for yourself, how can you grow from this experience?  What are you codependent issues and what are you doing to address them?

[exhausted16]

I appreciate the comment... still stuck bc she keeps texting/FB by accident she says.

[exhausted16]

My codependent issues... I'm a caretaker, I thought this relationship was different, we were getting ready to move in together and 9 days bf, accuses me of cheating on her and text me few days later that she's breaking up with me via text, take her stuff to friends and old xgfs that she decided to discuss our relationship and compare notes will pick up, followed by comment of wants to cut off contact.  Past month has been games... wants to talk, then if I don't reply/hold boundary becomes angry nasty text, followed by no response then text saying she's getting better and seeing professional who's a friend and that she wishes I could be funny loving kind guy I used to be.