Exgf had to mention she's engaged

[JerryRG]

ExBPDgf asked me what kind of phone I have and just had to mention she's engaged, trigger? Games? Same old behaviour but I focus my attention on how she treated me and I know I didn't cause her to behave the way she did.

I won't accept blame for a failed relationship and stayed too long hoping she would change and respect me.

Unless she's been hit by lightning I don't see a real change?

I'm tired and that is no place to be when thinking about her bs

[peace74]

I'm sorry to hear you're having to deal with that.   

I follow your posts and it seems like you just need some time to get back on track and heal.  It sucks that you can't even do that without hearing some major news like she is engaged.  Stay strong and focused.  You know the truth.  Who knows if this is real or a game or a way to get to you.  If it is indeed true it could very well change relatively quickly.  Just keep healing for yourself and your son.

[Euler2718]

I bet, if you're like me, you tried EVERYTHING to make it work -- even things that may have compromised your dignity or self respect or something like that.

The upside is that you probably can't spend a lot of time thinking... ."what if I had just done X? Or hadn't done Y?" It's a lot easier to get caught in a fantasy of regret if you actually gave 60%. For those of us who gave 100%, it's easier to avoid.

Anyway, engaged is easy... .she may get engaged many times. Married many times! Happy and enduring... .if you want to see karma, wait for it, be patient, it will come home to roost.

[JerryRG]

Thank you.

I knew she would throw this at me, she still resents me for telling her I couldn't be with her any longer.

The thing that bothers me most is her not caring about herself, our son or me. Everyone tells me she's using our son to manipulate me. She's being sweet to me at the moment, I'm not aware enough to really understand her, never could read people well.

Thanks again for the support

[MrConfusedWithItAll]

A few months ago my exBPDgf felt a need to inform me she had found Mr right and was engaged. A few weeks ago she let me know she was now single and loving it. The truth might be different. Their worlds are quite fanciful- or to borrow a technical term, disordered. We have been apart two years now.