denial vs empathy

[cherryblossom]

Hi im struggling here

Back on this board because im a confused sucker it seems

How do i know if im in denial or if i should have empathy and hope? Even now i know ex is seeing someone else still think he 

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[cherryblossom]

Could reach out - why do i still want that 2 happen? I felt free when i first found out he was seeing someone - now i feel like he is just using her to get over me - how do u know if theyve totally devalued u or whether they still love u and try and block u out?

[cherryblossom]

Its a game of thrones trailer with that acoustic version of wicked game that's set me off as we loved watching that together - and the song really reflects my feelings

[waverider]

Is it delusion or wishful thinking that is driving your indecision?

What is it that you really crave, and do you know why?

Sometimes we can spend so much time trying to decipher the motivations of others without fully being clear of our own. This leaves us in limbo pending the decisions of others.

[cherryblossom]

On another thread someonse said its like craving a high like a drug addict - im back on the detaching track - there is no hope for this relationship - i have to move on- luckily i now have found my spiritual home with the quakers so this is helping me a great deal - all i can do is focus on myself and own recovery - i cannot waste anymore time on wishful thinking