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drummerboy5
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
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« on: May 11, 2016, 12:10:05 PM »

I posted the other day about my exBPD/npd unblocking me on fb after 6 months of being silent for a month at a time. My ex is a little over 7 months pregnant btw. I have made no attempt to call or text her in over a month. Well I looked at her fb yesterday because I was curious. I noticed she changed her cover and profile pic to pics I've liked. I also noticed a guy that has been her fb friend comment on her pic and she responded back with a Thank you and emoji winky face blowing a kiss. I was upset at first and wanted to text her saying what the heck? But all the sudden I became calm and said you know what she's trying to get a reaction from me hence the unblocking...

I'm finally starting to put two and two together on her behaviors and stop my reactions... thinking back in our relationship she would do the same thing with fb when we would break up, I'd see her interaction with the guys and run back to her... Well this time I'm remaining silent and will not reach out or run back... I feel strong and feel great!

I just wanted to share my last few days with everyone.  Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #1 on: May 11, 2016, 12:53:26 PM »

I recently unblocked mine, I dunno why. I went and looked at all her photos too. She has pictures where she specifically takes them with the new partner, and of the new child, almost as if to gloat. I could be imagining that, who knows? Why she went to the trouble to unblock me is beyond me, but I think re-blocking her would just make it look worse. I guess I was trying to feel better knowing the truth instead of imagining how things are for her but I don't know that it makes any difference now.
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drummerboy5
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« Reply #2 on: May 11, 2016, 12:57:09 PM »

I recently unblocked mine, I dunno why. I went and looked at all her photos too. She has pictures where she specifically takes them with the new partner, and of the new child, almost as if to gloat. I could be imagining that, who knows? Why she went to the trouble to unblock me is beyond me, but I think re-blocking her would just make it look worse. I guess I was trying to feel better knowing the truth instead of imagining how things are for her but I don't know that it makes any difference now.

I was going to block my exBPD/npd but if I block she knows I know she's unblocked me, plus she would get a reaction from me. It's hard but once you start to figure out how pwBPD work things become clear.
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