Tempted to break NC for her birthday

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Honestly, Sweet Tooth, I don't want to see you get hurt anymore than you already have, bro. I know the feelings. The pain, the hurt, the betrayal. Thinking to yourself "If I just had another chance, I could do it differently. I can do it better if I just had one more chance". But, it was doomed, Sweet Tooth. It was doomed right from the start. If you re-engage, it will be more pain, more hurt and possibly even worse.

We all wanted our BPDexs back. Lord knows I did, even after all the hurt and betrayal. But time helps. Let time do it's thing. A few months from now, after some good and hard no contact your perspective may change a great deal. I'm 4 months out now, going on 5 and wouldn't take her back even if she had a winning Powerball lottery ticket in her pocket.

[Dhand77]

Honestly, Sweet Tooth, I don't want to see you get hurt anymore than you already have, bro. I know the feelings. The pain, the hurt, the betrayal. Thinking to yourself "If I just had another chance, I could do it differently. I can do it better if I just had one more chance". But, it was doomed, Sweet Tooth. It was doomed right from the start. If you re-engage, it will be more pain, more hurt and possibly even worse.

We all wanted our BPDexs back. Lord knows I did, even after all the hurt and betrayal. But time helps. Let time do it's thing. A few months from now, after some good and hard no contact your perspective may change a great deal. I'm 4 months out now, going on 5 and wouldn't take her back even if she had a winning Powerball lottery ticket in her pocket.

[sweet tooth]

You should keep seeing your therapist and stop talking/thinking about her. You're foolish to think you'll get over your ex (or get healthy), if you're still engaging with her. Painful longing for your ex is not love. It's merely a distorted definition of it you were forced to accept as a child. If you want a true barometer reading on how confident, secure, and healthy you are, honestly assess the person with whom you are trying to contact.

Easier said than did. If it were as easy as flipping and switch and saying "thoughts off" I wouldn't have to see a therapist in the first place.