Hi Venny,
I'm sorry to hear about your relationship breakdown. That hurts so much. I've been there and can fully understand your feelings of anger and wanting revenge. Those feelings are very normal, and you don't have to act on them, just feel them so that they don't get stuck. My advice is not to sacrifice your personal values for a temporary soothing of some uncomfortable feelings. Your self respect is worth more than that
How long were you together? I'm not clear if there was an agreed upon breakup with a request for NC or did she just disappear while you were gone?
Hang in there. I know it feels really, really terrible right now, but things really do get better. Really. The tools on this site and the amazingly supportive members here will help get you back on your feet.
Keep writing Venny, and tell us more of your story. We're here to support you.
heartandwhole