101 days - a whole new life

[RicoHal]

Let me tell you my success story:

After 3 years my BPD girl left me, seemingly out of the blue. She had lined up my replacement in around 2 weeks before, it beeing a boy she meet some days earlier.

I tried talking to her family, although never begging her to stay with me. She made her choice and I made it clear I do not take back used goods after she had sex with him the second week I was gone.

Her reckless mother said she had lined this up behind my back and it was ok , her dad sat down to watch television , commenting this behaviour "I wont interfere with that".

I left the house devastated, beeing there perfect son-in-law two weeks prior on a family party. They did not even say goodbye to the man who cared for the sick daughter 3 long years. I paid doctors bills and many, many of her shopping and spending sprees. Foolish me.

I started working out immidiately and - robbed of my home - I had a new vision for my life. I became a consultant for BL in switzerland, earning a fortune by mending broken relationships. Can it be done ? YES !

All it takes is support from ALL THE FAMILY , a good and open word on the wrong behaviour and much, much patience from the partner.

Today I bought a second car (convertible, a unique sports variant) after mending my other car. It took me 100 days to take my life around and life my full potential. I am dating several new women and found 40+ friends , not including 30+ estranged friends lost through her clinging to me (I could not leave the house after 16:00).

My advice? Move on and never look back. These people are not worth any more effort as they have thrown us out of their life. The WILL come back, just wait.

But don't be stupid. You cant trust them at all at this point.

A good psychologist can turn the situation around, but the ratio is 2% of good ones out there. Therapy is pure bull___ when no counseling or coaching is implemented.

[CloseToFreedom]

Hi RicoHal. It's so good to hear that you were able to turn your life around. I pretty much did the same after the break up and a period of mourning, and it truly sometimes seems like a gift our exes gave us to live life to full potential.

It seems like you are doing great, just as long as you don't forget to also work on your inner peace next to all the fun you are having and good work you are doing. I mean it seems like you don't need the advice, but that's one thing that stood out to me by reading your topic, you're very focused on outwards appeareance and social life. Which is great, don't get me wrong, but try to build in some time to think about things that happened and how you want to live your life, and WHO you are. Important stuff! But for now, enjoy man

[Leonis]

I left the house devastated, beeing there perfect son-in-law two weeks prior on a family party. They did not even say goodbye to the man who cared for the sick daughter 3 long years.

I know exactly how you feel. Similar thing happened to me. I went from someone the family is looking forward to have as a new member to the evil guy who forced my uBPD into a relationship and used the family as a leverage to prevent her from leaving.

I'm also glad that it took little over 3 months for you to get to where you are. It really gives me hope and a timeline of how I could change my life if I put forth effort.

[CloseToFreedom]

I left the house devastated, beeing there perfect son-in-law two weeks prior on a family party. They did not even say goodbye to the man who cared for the sick daughter 3 long years.

I know exactly how you feel. Similar thing happened to me. I went from someone the family is looking forward to have as a new member to the evil guy who forced my uBPD into a relationship and used the family as a leverage to prevent her from leaving.

I'm also glad that it took little over 3 months for you to get to where you are. It really gives me hope and a timeline of how I could change my life if I put forth effort.

The timeline is different for everyone. Take the time you need, there is no limit to it.

[Ahoy]

I left the house devastated, beeing there perfect son-in-law two weeks prior on a family party. They did not even say goodbye to the man who cared for the sick daughter 3 long years.

I know exactly how you feel. Similar thing happened to me. I went from someone the family is looking forward to have as a new member to the evil guy who forced my uBPD into a relationship and used the family as a leverage to prevent her from leaving.

I'm also glad that it took little over 3 months for you to get to where you are. It really gives me hope and a timeline of how I could change my life if I put forth effort.

The timeline is different for everyone. Take the time you need, there is no limit to it.

Yeah I'm just about to hit 101 days myself. I feel like a turtle that's only just stuck his head outside his shell. Why is the sun so bright?

I wish I would heal faster, but like you said, we go at our own pace and there is absolutely no shame in that.