Do they ever stop acting crazy?

[JerryRG]

I just have to ask, my exgf seems to be worse than ever yet each time I talk to her she's different. She's deathly sick, then better, then crying and scared, then better, she's back to being sick then the symptoms go away.

How do these people function when all this chaos surrounds them? Does she even realize she's sick or not sick or anything in between?

Will she ever stop lying? Does she know she's lying?

Isn't all this going to adversely affect my son's mental state as well?

My councelor always told me that I never knew which person is going to show up.

Ok, enough analysis, I'm off to a meeting and rest up for work tomorrow. I do hope my ex gets well one day, no one deserves to live like that.

Have a great night everyone

[sweet tooth]

Would it be appropriate to discuss this stuff with your lawyer? Can they perform a psyche eval on her to make sure she's fit to have custody with your son?

[Herodias]

She knows she is lying... .she sounds dis-regulated and maybe she is hitting a rock bottom state. Maybe she is doing drugs with her bf. ?

[JerryRG]

My exes sister in law believed she was doing meth again, she took a picture of her face right after I broke up with her in Nov, I showed it to people who know meth addiction and they all said she's using again. She claims she's got lupus and that explains her rash and sores on her face.

Her bf is a former alcoholic and he lived 6 years on the street and was in all kinds of legal trouble. So who knows what they are up too.

If he beat her, the doctor said he was bad news with a violent temper and his pastor said he was just trying to keep my exgf quiet. Either way he spent 48 hours in jail, can the police keep someone jailed without solid evidence of abuse?

[Herodias]

The police do whatever they want- are you getting any stories from your son? That's what matters.

[JQ]

Hey Jerry,

You already know the answer to the question, I believe it's more rhetorical then an actual question for the group.  BPD is as we all know a very, VERY serious Mental Illness with little if any hope of management much less a full recovery due to the limitations of current medical understanding of the mental illness, much less the genetic defect within the DNA strand.

My first exBPDgf is not even close to being any better in fact seems much worse then when I first knew her 20 years ago ... .but now she's part of a law enforcement agency which makes things even more scary. She like the 2nd one functions quite well after years of learning to adapt to people, situations. The first one knows she lies, but it's to her benefit in the end and will do whatever, say whatever to 'FEED HER NEED", not so sure on the 2nd one, but if I was a betting man, I would say she knows as well and again it's to "FEED HER NEED". I've seen moments of clarity from the 2nd one, but it's short lived. Long enough to allow me an escape route, in the immortal words of Top Gun's Maverick ... .GOOSE YOU HAVE TO GET US OUT OF HERE ... .EJECT EJECT EJECT!

I would agree with your counselor, I never knew who was going to show up when I called, she came over, or I went over there. It is certainly not a way to live out your life not knowing who you were going to come home too without question.

You are a strong and amazing person, looking out for the well being of your son but also wishing that someday that science can fix what all the Kings horses and all the Kings men could not repair ... .

Cheers to a good week to you, and all in the group!

J

[JerryRG]

Thanks JQ

Everything is going to be ok in my life, my ex not so much and that's ok. She reminds me a little of my dad when he drank, he would be funny at first (I knew what was coming) then he would get obnoxious, then serious, then mean and finally pitiful or pathetic.

I remember never taking him serious even when he was sober because I lost respect. That was a mistake on my part but I just didn't know better. I don't have much respect for my exgf after she treated me so awful but she did have some good points and good advice. Moments of clarity? Just couldn't distinguish honesty from manipulation and down right lies. I just stopped listening after while, especially when she started saying mean things to me.

[JQ]

Everything is going to be ok in my life,

You know Jerry, I believe you!    Everything is going to be ok in your life!  Continue to learn, grow and explore and live YOUR life!

J