He sent an email saying that he wants a divorce immediately citing irreconcilable differences. He said that I wanted him caged (i.e., married and monogamous) and that he is most upset that I manipulated him, his family, and his adult son. I'm trying to figure out how I could manipulate people I only speak with when he is a delusional mess. Last year his adult son and I tried to get an involuntary commitment that the VA screwed up. I did alert his son to his delusions caused by (we thought) drug use. I texted him the other day to let him know his Dad was no longer here due to the restraining order. His son and I are closer that they are to each other... .I had arranged a Father's Day thing.
If I don't give him an immediate divorce by agreeing to change the separation date to a year ago when we were together (my state requires a 1 year waiting period from the date of separation) he said he will refuse to sign any financial forms I might need.
I feel like I've been hit by a truck.
My advice is to kill them with kindness. That way when you look back you at least know you did your best and stayed true to your heart. This is probably not a recommended procedure on this board but I wish I had done that instead of losing my cool and what not. Act indifferent with the up most respect and kindness it might throw him off a bit because he sees you as a villain right now
