Will she come back? Left With Kids, Filed RO Against Me ~

[617788]

Hello everyone I'm trying to get some insight into what exactly is going on with my wife we have been together for 7 years and have 3 children together and recently she decided she was no longer happy in the relationship and decided to leave. This is not the first time this has happened but this time is much more serious recently she was told by a doctor that he thinks she has BPD just before the major split she spent nights on the sofa crying saying she didn't know what was wrong with her and she was confused and didn't know what she wanted she had gotten very cold toward me all of a sudden its like she flicked a switch and no longer wanted to be near me and no longer wanted me to touch her she was also told she is most likely depressed as well. So I go away for work for 11 days this is where things take an extreme turn for the worst the first 3 days I was away were fine she was sending me messages telling me she missed me and loved me couldn't wait until I got home and then she reached out to her family whom she didn't speak to since the last blow up 2 years ago apprently because they bring the worst out in her and she didn't like them then things got really bad I barely heard from her and she took on the personality she got 2 years ago its like she just becomes someone else talks different its like I'm talking to a different person then she told me she was moving out with the kids and cut all contact with me I didn't hear anything for days when I arrived home I went out to the house with a family member she called the police saying I was trying to kick the door down which was a complete lie and the neighbors vouged for me I left and went to stay with family the next day I was served with a restraining order saying she feared for her life now she has moved out into an apartment with the kids over the past two weeks I have been taking them on the weekends she had not tried to contact me at all I'm so confused right now how this could all be so sudden I'm shocked. Will she try and reach out to me or am I being wishful ? I should also add I found out through a friend that days after she stopped contact with me she was on a dating site.

[617788]

My BPDexgf left me recently after a very longterm relationship she was quote "unhappy" she said she loved me but was no longer in love. She completely cut me out of her life. In a desperate attempt to get her attention and maybe to get her to rethink her decision I have been considering just leaving Town for a few weeks without a trace would she care?

[jrharvey]

Im no expert but I think the best way to get her attention is actually move on with your life. Accept that its over and start seeing other people. My BPD girlfriend broke up with me several times in the past over stupid stuff and I accepted it and started to move on and it didnt take long before she was blowing up my phone and litterally begging and saying she couldnt live without me or she would die. That sounds more like a BPD person to me. Of course then once I started talking to her she would lay in to me with the "why didnt you chase me, why didnt you call, why didnt you this or that"? Truth is she probably didnt want to break up at all. She wanted to get my attention. When it didnt work she tried the other desperate attempt to get my attention. If a BPD woman is in love I think she would do just about anything to not be abandoned. If she is walking away and totally ok with it then I worry if its worth even saving.

[617788]

She is completely dysregulated right now depressed and all over the place I came home from work with a restraining order in place and she's moved into her own apartment with the kids but days before she said that she couldn't wait for me to return home and she loved me I don't get it. She said she loves me but isn't in love with me any longer.