Tell me not to...

[Ab123]

So, my great post BPDex bf of 5 months got a fantastic job offer... .far enough away that my great relationship is rapidly tanking as we deal with the likely ramifications, all of which come too soon for this new relationship.

As some of you may recall, when I last communicated with my ebfwuBPD around may, he was super nice and doing anything to win me back, though I think he now has a new gf.

I'm hurting so bad... .it is so so so tempting to text him for the ego boost. Which, could snow ball into a recycle. I know better. It feels good just to type that out.

The stove is hot. Put the ding dong down, etc.

Encouragement would be appreciated.

[hope2727]

DON"T DO IT!

 NOTHING BUT MORE PAIN WILL COME OF IT.

You are worthy and deserving of a happy healthy life. GO make it for yourself and the rest will fall into place.

[Leonis]

The stove is hot. Put the ding dong down, etc.

Encouragement would be appreciated.

Don't do it. Just because he's willing to jump inside you in a heartbeat doesn't mean it'll end will.

My recent interactions with my ex has led to her possibly being pregnant.

[once removed]

hi Ab123,

what sorts of ramifications is his move having on your relationship? what sort of ego boost are you looking for from him?

it might help to explore these questions first. we can tell you all day long what to do or what not to do - youll do it or not.

[Ab123]

It's my current healthy bf that got a job offer. It forced commitment conversations earlier than we should have had them, and it revealed differences in what we want/expect. All normal stuff. I think there is a 75% chance we will part ways. It's sad, I'm crying a lot, and typical of gender differences, being very emotional while he is turning colder and saying I'm overreacting.  But, really, that's all  very very normal.

I'm just feeling bad about myself, in a normal way when a breakup is looming, and I still miss my exwuBPD. It's tempting to look to him for attention. I was already with my current bf when my ex reached out, promising the sun moon and stars, if I took him back. I declined, in part because I didn't want to ruin things with a potentially good guy for a recycle with someone I don't believe can sustain a relationship.

[Sadly]

Dear AB

Please don't

Love
Sadly xx