there are other ways to tell but that is a dark and dangerous path and one i have walked
finding out she cheated gave me closure and reduced my disbelief in myself and gave me sanity
all the denial, that she wouldn't cheat on me was gone
cheating is a boundary, she crossed that boundary and will never be coming back
despite all the denials to this date i have the proof!
i have some closure, and she is on her own and the abandonment has lead to me being painted black
even to the point where she has to repaint reality and say i was crap in bed
this is how disturbed they are, they cant even remember the good times as this causes pain due to abandonment.
she is trying to find someone better than me. but i set that bar really high!
so in her mind she lowers the bar by devaluing me!
i don't have to buy into that
i know truth and reality