Hi Huskypilot87,
I'm sorry that you're going through a difficult time. I would feel a lot of sadness and stress if every day feels like it's task to get through it.
I feel as if every day is a struggle. She gets it some days but most does not.
I'll share with you what helped me, you're situation is unique to you and what someone else goes through is not necessarily your experience, it's not one size fits all, but we're all here sharing with one another to help each other. My ex wife suffers from a serious mental illness where she has difficulties empathizing with others because she's often emotionally overloaded, it's hard to see from someone else's perspective when you're struggling daily with your own internal battles, she probably gives you the impression that's she's really absorbed? I accepted that my ex wife is emotionally arrested and has social impairments, what she has to go through internally is not personal to me, I had to de-personalize the behaviors and accept her for who is and not for what I wanted her to be.
Will I ever be able to make peace after the storm?
It's definitely possible to move forward but I think that what may help is wiping the slate clean with her past bad behaviors and look at the present as ground-zero, a fresh starting point. What do you think about that? Is that something that you think that you can do?