Relationship fantasies

[Depression = 72% of members]

I want to know what were the best moments or over the top moments while in a relationship with BPDgf. Mine was to plan vacations, wedding, trips, shopping and even kids and ofcourse not to forget "Sex in the rainforest".

I want to know whether its common across BPD to have fantasies like these as they live in different universe alltogether.

[maddy786]

I want to know what were the best moments or over the top moments while in a relationship with BPDgf. Mine was to plan vacations, wedding, trips, shopping and even kids and ofcourse not to forget "Sex in the rainforest".

I want to know whether its common across BPD to have fantasies like these as they live in different universe alltogether.

[gotbushels]

How quickly was she planning these? If it's after 1 week it seems a little different from being 1-3 years in. Mine expressed interest in planning that list except wedding and kids.

[maddy786]

Mine planned after 8 months or so

[Cleanglass]

I believe my ex wanted these things on the days he thought I was perfect. The problem was that the plans for superficial, in the sense that it was all about how it was going to look and what others will think.

Basically the plans were real but for all the wrong reasons. I don't always believe that they intend to manipulate but more that subconsciously they are not in control of their emotions and these are survival instincts for them that cause more damage to themselves than they do to us. Ultimately we get to walk away (not without scars of course) and get ourselves together again. It's not easy for them.

[CitizenBell]

Mine wanted me to take her to Disneyland and Cuba and Rome, and to travel with me forever, after two weeks together. She didn't outright plan marriage and kids, but she talked about them, told me that her Mum is religious and she's not so when we got married then there'd be issues with that. When we had time apart, she would talk about wanting to have sex in a club with me, have sex on a train, have sex everywhere in Europe when we travelled. She would say "Let's travel forever, baby", that we'd grow old together and talked in detail about the type of house we would live in. Said we'd always live in Wes Anderson land.

This was all two weeks to two months into the relationship.