I say stay out of it too... .somehow you need to convince yourself that you are better off and if this guy is too weak to be his own person, then that is his problem. Be glad she has someone else to torture. Funny thing though... .my exes gf is turning my ex into her ex-husband. Just like you said here... .taking the same trips, the way he dresses and now has a beard. She just moved him up to her very, very small hometown in the mountains near her family. She is posting this all for her husband to see on Facebook I am sure. I seriously wonder if my ex has gotten with another pwBPD or just very immature, hard to tell. I am very relived he is no longer in my state for me to run into. It is very strange how they take on personalities like this, I understand. I guess it is because they don't know who they really are. Sad, I seriously thought mine was a city person by all of the choices he was making... not my choice oddly. Oh well, he will have to deal with the consequences of what he has gotten himself into, just as your ex. I suppose they feel like nothing is permanent, so may as well give it a go... .wish I could do that a little bit actually... .

By the way... .I am glad I am not alone in the middle of nowhere with out the ability to get the police fast, like she has just done! Very, very scary! Just remember, the new person doesn't believe you are a truthful good person after the smear campaign... .he won't believe you anyway, sadly.