coincidence i think not..

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just a little thing i´d like to share...
After being in a BPD relationship for 18 years... .i guess ... .you end up with skills... .you know ... in a way.
at one point after she moved out  . . . a buddy of mine kind of forced me into the social app game... .
you know ... .seeing pictures. . . . like or don´t like kind of thing...
if chating for some time then facebook connection is made...
even tho i never ended up on a real date ... .
... .it does make you wonder when the fact is in my facebook now i have ... .
one girl diagnosed with BPD ( and studying psychology in the same school as my ex did)
one girl diagnosed with BPD and anti social PD.
and one not diagnosed but has everything you need to be BPD
(even had me meet her by sending me a picture of her crying her eyes out)
and has a horrible abuse past.

I really think i need to find myself a new hobby

[Bushido]

just a little thing i´d like to share...
After being in a BPD relationship for 18 years... .i guess ... .you end up with skills... .you know ... in a way.
at one point after she moved out  . . . a buddy of mine kind of forced me into the social app game... .
you know ... .seeing pictures. . . . like or don´t like kind of thing...
if chating for some time then facebook connection is made...
even tho i never ended up on a real date ... .
... .it does make you wonder when the fact is in my facebook now i have ... .
one girl diagnosed with BPD ( and studying psychology in the same school as my ex did)
one girl diagnosed with BPD and anti social PD.
and one not diagnosed but has everything you need to be BPD
(even had me meet her by sending me a picture of her crying her eyes out)
and has a horrible abuse past.

I really think i need to find myself a new hobby

[gotbushels]

Hi Bushido 

I'm not really sure what you're asking for here. Skills of what way?

Is this hobby you describe bothering you?

If you're just chatting your thoughts that's okay too. I just wasn't sure.

[Bushido]

Hi Bushido 
I'm not really sure what you're asking for here. Skills of what way?
Is this hobby you describe bothering you?
If you're just chatting your thoughts that's okay too. I just wasn't sure.

hi gotbushels...

idon´t think i´m asking about anything... .
... .just somekind of outloud thinking i guess...

skills of seeing thru the shell of a borderline mask...
even if i had never met them. . . i just felt it. . . there is something there.
kind of a gut feeling...
a good thing or bad? i don´t know
But should help prevent going in another BPD relationship perhaps...
it doesn´t bother me... .it´s just interesting.

[tryingsome]

Are you talking about people you met on Tinder?
If so, I say remove yourself. I have tried it and the people out there are pretty far on the curve. Not saying BPD, but the ease of it attracts a certain personality.
Unless you can remove yourself from the emotion, but then you woildnt be commenting.

[Bushido]

Are you talking about people you met on Tinder?
If so, I say remove yourself. I have tried it and the people out there are pretty far on the curve. Not saying BPD, but the ease of it attracts a certain personality.
Unless you can remove yourself from the emotion, but then you woildnt be commenting.

Yeah... The social app world...
And i agree. . . many far on the curve... .
And some way crazyer than that.
But i'm out of that game...
It was interesting and served its social purpuse at the time.
But i want to experiance somthing more real. . more normal.
Not some quiq pick up to fill an emty void.

[gotbushels]

It's been interesting reading your experiences there guys.

Bushido, yes I agree that it's quite interesting. I do hope it's valuable to you in the future for not going into the sort of relationship that you don't want to be drawn in to.

I'm not sure about the gut feeling thing. The closest I can relate to this is that I pay more attention to things that I wouldn't usually pay attention to. Something that helped me that I hope can help us here is to ask why we saw things the way we saw them. For example, I felt that I had quite a blur line between what is healthy behaviour and what is unhealthy behaviour because of my past. I let a lot of things go that I wasn't happy with. Does that apply to you too?

[Bushido]

For example, I felt that I had quite a blur line between what is healthy behaviour and what is unhealthy behaviour because of my past. I let a lot of things go that I wasn't happy with. Does that apply to you too?

Hi gobushels
I think that in my case the fact that my BPDrelationship started at the age of 15 is a big factor. The brain isn' t even fully developt at that age and neither is the personality.
So having the BPD intense affect in the relationship that early then the adaprion... .protion process began faster...
Hope for  better self...

[lovenature]

I really think i need to find myself a new hobby

Probably a good idea; social media is known for not showing the truth (heard the term "fake book" ?)

Quality face to face time doing things you enjoy with friends you are comfortable with (alone is good too) can bring you much needed peace.

[Bushido]

can bring you much needed peace.

i would like that... .alot!

[Bushido]

So having the BPD intense affect in the relationship that early then the adaprion... .protion process began faster...
Hope for  better self...

no really! was i drunk when i wrote that?