But I know now not to be an enabler in future when I work on myself and my boundaries.
This is another potential benefit to the borderline label. It not only helps us understand the possible how and why, it also potentially exposes aspects of ourselves that need attention under certain circumstances. At this point we can choose to grow or choose to stagnate and repeat.
Totally! In the end it is all about knowing ourselves well and how we choose to accept and respond to situations and people in our lives. We can only be an inspiration and or helpful to those or even make a real good impact in others lives such as those suffering with a PD if we actually strive to get healthier ourselves. We were mistaken when we thought that we had to sacrifice ourselves in order to fix and solve our pwBPDs struggles and just became a part of the whole problem. It was a shared issue, really and why I believe we were matched with them. All we could ever do is try to understand them the best we could, such as understanding all about mental illnesses... and what each label means but not try to change them. It was all about better understanding ourselves, living fulfilling lives of our own and leading by a good example.
