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« on: November 25, 2016, 12:20:09 AM »

Well i'm many many weeks in to NC and acctually doing fine. Maybe someone know a little bit to my story. But she ran away with out an explanation and then if i try to contact everything was blocked. The final was in mars this year.

One of the last thing i saw from her in june/july this year was picture of her and her new boyfriend (she sent me email and told me that was love of her life, like she said to me few months early) there i saw one thing on this picture.

She had change her hair color to normal. That hurts me then beacuse she told me that she would never have normal hair unless she will be pregnant.

Now yesterday i got curius and was google her name. Have not done it for weeks and acctually not think of her. But i found out that she is pregnant and got pregnant in june/july. This was a little bit shock but also not at all. I start to smile soon after and think how lucky i was. And poor poor new guy and poor poor baby. Just what the will have to go trugh.

How happy is the guy have got the women of his dreams pregnant just weeks after they  first meet. He just dont know what to come and that this was her plan for years.

It did hurt see this in june but now when i got it confirmed it was some kind a "i knew it moment" "closure" it fealt great.

I'm the lucky one after all.
Take care people.
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« Reply #1 on: November 25, 2016, 12:58:46 AM »

It sounds like you're taking this well. Checking in by searching social media isn't out of the norm. 

The changing hair style to reflect life events is interesting. My ex did it with me,  carrying it over from something that had nothing to do with me.  She left me,  and radically changed her look.  When she radically changed it again,  I knew something was up in her new marriage and it was.  Though this isn't a diagnostic trait,  it's still interesting. My ex once commented that she might do this (change the outside) because she couldn't change the inside.
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« Reply #2 on: November 25, 2016, 05:10:38 AM »

I dont know if she have change something now. But when i saw this picture with diffrent hair color i was so sure about what was going on. I told to my close one that i was sure about this, almost like a bet. And the feeling now is well yes like i had one a bet. Unfortunally i did not bet on this but few of me friends know i said this and that is victory for me some how.

It took her 3-4 months... .dump mr and get pregnant. Is that just normal or? She was talking to me about name of our baby. But then she will have this baby with another man. I would almost want to bet on the name haha but i will never know the name i guess.
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