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[Depression = 72% of members]

 I am going pure nuts my partner has been diagnosed with NPD ad a teen he's been hospitalized twice for a fre months as a teen for sttping suicide he's never has had follow up treatments and stop takingeds years ago in short everything that member's has posted about mates wit BPD is exactly what my life has been its an extremely difficult ride for me because he is a wonderful person an refuses to blame himself for these outrages out burst and ragea he has for small reasons how can I start to get him.to get into counseling for anger management at least its wud be a beginning I heard ppl can recover or manage it to live productive lives it hurts to see him feel so remorseful after because he never hit me but he abuses things I got him to contain the throwing of things but he is svary wen he's mad even cuts half or beats himself I cannot walk away and leave him until I find no other way to get him basically I'm not going leave him like everyone in his past has help me

[Sheren]

 I am going pure nuts my partner has been diagnosed with NPD ad a teen he's been hospitalized twice for a fre months as a teen for sttping suicide he's never has had follow up treatments and stop takingeds years ago in short everything that member's has posted about mates wit BPD is exactly what my life has been its an extremely difficult ride for me because he is a wonderful person an refuses to blame himself for these outrages out burst and ragea he has for small reasons how can I start to get him.to get into counseling for anger management at least its wud be a beginning I heard ppl can recover or manage it to live productive lives it hurts to see him feel so remorseful after because he never hit me but he abuses things I got him to contain the throwing of things but he is svary wen he's mad even cuts half or beats himself I cannot walk away and leave him until I find no other way to get him basically I'm not going leave him like everyone in his past has help me

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[ArleighBurke]

Hi and welcome!

It is not your job to "fix him". If he needs counselling, that will need to be HIS choice. You can suggest it to him, but you can't force him to go.

I cannot walk away and leave him. I'm not going leave him like everyone in his past

To stay in a relationship like this takes a LOT of emotional strength - because you'll need to "make up for" what he cannot offer. This is why others have walked away - because a relationship takes 2 people. He is incapable of having a normal relationship.

[Mutt]

Hi Sheren,



I'm sorry to hear that. I can relate with how frustrating and distressing that feels when your SO change what they say and blame you for everything.

We're not there yet. Mental illness carries stigma, it's difficult for people that s that have a mental disorder, let to share that with others or to come to terms with it. It's not all hopeless though, people are more aware of depression and anxiety and it carries less of a stigma than NPD.

Men may be irritable when they are depressed, NPD can be co-morbid with another or several mental illness like a mood disorder, such as depression and anxiety. Depression and anxiety seem to be more socially accepted and that can be easier for people to share their mental disorder with someone else. A personality disorder is probably a tough pill to swallow.   With that being said, you could suggest that he goes in and talk to someone about depression to get his proverbial foot in the door.

So Sheren, has he been diagnosed with depression or does he show signs of depression?