Welcome GoodGuy:I'm so sorry about the break-up of your relationship. That has to be very hurtful.
I almost broke it off so many times and threatened to do so if she did not take her therapy seriously (which she eventually did to my satisfaction). However, I wasn't ready to throw in the towel yet... .I am very stubborn and hate to lose, especially when my vision for the future included us basking in the glory of defeating BPD together. I was her caretaker and honestly I am not sure how I could have let go of that role even if she was 100% in remission.
Unfortunately, we can't fix someone else. BPD isn't likely to go into 100% remission. People can improve and learn skills to manage it, but the likelihood is that issues will resurface during various life events and stresses.
Is it possible that she came to resent you acting as "her caretaker"? In what ways did you act as her caretaker?
She broke up with me two weeks ago, just as I had quit my job and accepted a new one to move to the city where she had just gotten her "dream job." . . .What are the chances that we will be able to have that 50 / 50 partnership that I want for the mother of my future children?
Did she give you a reason for the break-up? It is unfortunate that you quit your job. Have you already moved to the new city? Was she aware that you were planning to quit your job and move to her new city before the break-up?