Hope in saving a relationship with a partner with BPD.

[Galad]

We are three men in a gay Triad relationship. Our younger partner has BPD. Also a history of Depression and anxiety and sex and love addiction. We have had 3 or 4 conflicts in which we nearly separated and got back together. We have been together a year. He asked to move out the day after thanksgiving and we helped him to do that. It was very painful and sad for all of us.

Were struggling on how to proceed and whether we can salvage and re build the relationship, which is our preference.

We need help in assessing and determining if this is possible and how best to solicit the intentions from our partner. Who says he still loves us but has lost the emotional love in the relationship.

Can we get this back?
He is seeing a therapist weekly for his sex addiction and attends weekly meetings for SLAA. He also sees a psychiatrist every 3 weeks and is taking prescriptive medications.

Thank you for any advice.

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[Mutt]

Hi Galad,



I'd like to welcome you to  bpdfamily. I'm sorry that you're going through a difficult period.The BPD can precipitate under stress. I can how Thanksgiving can trigger a pwBPD, what was the other conflict about?

I'm glad that you decided to join us. You'll find many members that can relate with and offer you guidance and support. You'll find the lessons on the right of the board, it helps to rad as much as you can about pwBPD you'll quickly see the benefits and become proficient over time.