He contacted me after 3 3/4 years.

[Reader9]

Sunflower, thanking you for sharing your story. I too think this is a very personal journey and what works for one person won't work for another. It's taken me a very long time and that is with a lot of tears, hard work and letting go. I don't know what the future holds, but I am very grateful for peace and detachment today and in the past weeks.

[Reforming]

Hi Reader,

Everyone needs to find their way to heal and move on. I think it's quite appropriate to use NC to protect yourself and help you detach. And I'm really glad that it's worked for you.

Good luck and thanks for sharing your update

Reforming

[lovenature]

It definitely depends on your situation and what reality has proven in the past whether or not it is best to ever have contact again or not. We must remember that PWBPD are capable of truly believing their version of the past and the present, and so many times they try anything to maintain the attachment they had with us.