no idea

[Bushido]

i really hat it when i come to the forum to speak and then just BLANK!
i mean what the hell is that about! Not like i can´t talk about anything... .
... .there is always something!
The game goes on but now it´s all on the kids ... .cuz i don´t give a sh...
one day... .one day ms.ex. . . .  you will crash and burn.

seems like i´m a bit in a kindof a  trauma state... .since i´m so stuck in my own mind.


so ... .one day at  a time . . . .  i keep moving forward...

[ynwa]

Hey bushido,

It sounds like you are having a tough time processing your feelings?
But you are trying, and give yourself space to find the words.  Or not.  It's fine to let the emotions out as they come too.

Does it feel like maybe you are experiencing more than one emotion at a time.  The five stages to the right of this page might help.

I'm sure what you are feeling is hard, like you said already, One Day at A Time.

[lovenature]

Hey Bushido

I recognize you have been around here awhile like I have. We understand how you feel; just keep putting one foot in front of the other brother, the only way out is through.

[Bushido]

Hey Bushido

I recognize you have been around here awhile like I have. We understand how you feel; just keep putting one foot in front of the other brother, the only way out is through.

Hi lovenature...
Yes... .I have been around for awhile... .A bit on and off... .Depends on where my mind is positiond in this ___storm!
And the greatest on is fear... .I mean i can take anything... .But knowing what my kids are going thru... .Is the one that troubles me...
I cant even start describing it all since my mind is just trying to save what she seems to want ti destroy!
Win... .its all about winning!
And in her mind... .in order to win... .someone must loose!  No matter what!

[Bushido]

Bottom line... .
In 6 days she is going to move 900km away
With 2 kids to a guy they have only met twice!
Alot more is to the story but this is just crazy!
How are the kids suppose to feel?
And and all this for only 6 months and then come back... .What tha f... .!
Nothing but a control game ... .And using the kids
As pawns.
Going to see childservice tomorrow...
( who she says are on her side)
You know... .
Since i'm the big bad wolf...
As usual... .

[tammym1972]

Bottom line... .
In 6 days she is going to move 900km away
With 2 kids to a guy they have only met twice!
Alot more is to the story

I've noticed too how they seem careless with the safety of their children. My live in exBPDbf of almost 4 years replaced me the day after he broke up with me and took his kids there to spend the might 3 days later. To a virtual stranger's house. A crazy stranger with BPD and PTSD that was arrested for fraud! It is sad that they don't even care about their kids.

[lovenature]

Going to see childservice tomorrow...
( who she says are on her side)
You know... .
Since i'm the big bad wolf...
As usual... .

I'm really sorry you are going through this. They can be extremely convincing and manipulative, especially to those who have never seen what you have.
The reason they behave this way in regards to children and other adult responsibilities is because they have the emotional maturity of a typical 3 year old, and to them feelings=facts; they REALLY believe their version of reality is correct.

[Bushido]

i am still here... .can you belive that 

[Skip]

Bottom line... .
In 6 days she is going to move 900km away
With 2 kids to a guy they have only met twice!
Alot more is to the story but this is just crazy!
How are the kids suppose to feel?
And and all this for only 6 months and then come back... .What tha f... .!
Nothing but a control game ... .And using the kids
As pawns.
Going to see child service tomorrow...
( who she says are on her side)
You know... .
Since i'm the big bad wolf...
As usual... .

Bizarre.

So what ended up happening?

[Bushido]

Bizarre.

So what ended up happening?

Well... .She still lives there... .Hates it! But cant admit it.
And has no other place to go... .Exept move back to her parents.
The escape story is still on going so i guess we'll see what happens next.

[Bushido]

they have the emotional maturity of a typical 3 year old, and to them feelings=facts; they REALLY believe their version of reality is correct.

I know... .It is actually mindblowing to see... .

[lovenature]

Win... .its all about winning!
And in her mind... .in order to win... .someone must loose!  No matter what!

Sadly once you get too close and trigger their fear of engulfment devaluation begins to push you away. When a PWBPD feels good enough about themselves you will get idealization, rational and sensible. When a PWBPD doesn't feel good enough about themselves, and they get close to feeling the core shame, you will get devaluation, senseless and irrational.

They have to be the better person in their reality to avoid drowning in a sea of shame.

Take care Brother.

[Bushido]

They have to be the better person in their reality to avoid drowning in a sea of shame.

Take care Brother.

Thank you ...

It's a funny thing (so not funny tho) this shame...
She is doing every thing in her power to destroy everything... .Just cos i made it thru the chaos she left me in...
Irrasional... .Yeah... .Trying to leave us with out a home... .That's really thinking about your kids.