How Was Everyone's Holiday?

[FiveForFighting]

Just wanted to pop in and wish everyone a joyous and wonderful Christmas. Hope everyone received something something they can cherish. I was simply looking for time with family and peace. I did get one of those and it didn't come with peace but I also did receive a lecture and a book from my uBPDw on how I can better myself and how I can act in a way that is desirable to her, how I can stop putting pressure on her and take control of my family and how I can make her happy. Tis the season.

[formflier]

I too hope everyone had a good Christmas.

Mine was calm.  I enjoyed time with my family.

I'll take that as a holiday anytime!

FF

[Portent]

It sucked. My wife saw fit to break her promiss earlier this month and told my step kids that we were getting a divorce. Now the two of them are being more distant as a protective mechanism.

[Stolen]

I second the "it sucked" review.

This was the 5th Christmas that I have not seen my daughters. They are now 20 and 17, and their alienation from me is daunting.

My friends are very supportive, and I keep myself busy, but it is just so hard.

This does not get any easier.

[flourdust]

First Hanukkah without the BPDw. I had D11 with me.

My parents came in from out of state. They took us out to dinner and a movie, then to brunch the next morning. They took D11 to see the local production of "A Christmas Carol," while I stayed home and cooked like a madman. We had a lovely, warm, peaceful Christmukkah dinner with a few dear friends, my parents, and D11. The rest of the weekend, D11 and I hung out at home, reading by the fire, doing crafts, eating leftovers, and watching a movie. It was splendid.

For comparison, I can look at my journal from last year, where D11 and I prepared a dinner with occasional breaks for BPDw to have massive tantrums, screaming at us and calling us names.

[oshinko maki]

My heart hurts for those who could not be with their children during this time. I hope you can call or email or somehow communicate with them.

My holiday was great, except when out of the blue my wife said harshly to my son that she did not and would not get him any presents, which he and I had figured anyway, but still... .

[Hlinthewiking]

Mine was the worst I'v ever had. exBPDgf broke up with me via text the evening before xmas eve, couldn't eat much or have pleasure in eating because I'm in a post op from a tonsillectomy, the only gift I got was a card with a $100 from my grandma. Christmas used to be my favorite holiday, I don't think it is anymore. Wish you all the best though, hope you had a merry christmas.

[Sufficating]

Another ruined holiday... .Halloween, Thanksgiving, and now Christmas... .all awful.

I found out Dec.23rd that my S/O has been secretly meeting up with a female. 

I then faked the entire Christmas day as I was hosting. 

[Krato]

Our Xmas was much better than few of the previous years. My uBPDw had just one minor fit about few toy cars that our 2-year old lost somewhere. She had bought those for him as a present. She's always counting and keeping track on his missing toy cars on other times as well. So me and my family (mum, aunt, sister, brother) spent part of the Xmas eve moving furniture around trying to find missing toy cars which she wasn't even sure how they looked like. I think in the end the cars were in the container where they were supposed to be.

We also got some money as present from her relatives, she took major part of it but I got some pennies too. She felt entitled to all of it so she was upset about me throwing a joke about uneven split (I had few drinks, so couldn't resist making the joke). As usual, she also mentioned how all presents we got from my family were mainly for me and not her. Her family's presents are obviously always more expensive than my family's are so she feels I take advantage of her family without giving nothing in return. This time she didn't blame me being disrespectful and unthankful  towards them though.