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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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« on: January 17, 2017, 01:57:01 PM »

"Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused."
Paulo Coelho

Just curious how many of us find the above quote useful and how love has impacted our daily struggles of detaching from a BPD partner.
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« Reply #1 on: January 18, 2017, 09:32:10 AM »

Powerful quote, Ananass!

How has this idea of love impacted you in your detachment process?
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When the pain of love increases your joy, roses and lilies fill the garden of your soul.
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« Reply #2 on: January 20, 2017, 12:20:27 AM »

BPD is a serious mental illness, loving someone with the disorder and trying to make it work with them shows us what we need to change with ourselves, very painful but the path to a better way of life.
It has been said that we need to love ourselves before we can love another.
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« Reply #3 on: January 20, 2017, 05:43:52 AM »

Wow, that really hit home. It has certainly given me something to think about!
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