I feel like you are trying to compare yourself to the replacement. I had that problem until it was clear that she just wanted me to mind my own business. Not sure how long the new guy will continue pleasing her, but it will eventually fade away. Sometimes I wonder, if we, the nons, are at times so selfish that we do not really wish our exBPDs well, or are we always looking for validation that they were the problem and not us? What they put us through was not enough validation?
Nah I'm not really comparing myself to her replacement for me, I know why she went after him it was for money she hasn't stopped using him from the first date. The man is a fool he's the one that never stopped opening up his wallet. I watched her use him over and over I confronted her about it she would get mad at me. One day he hurt himself pretty good he would have benefited of having help while he recovered for a couple days nope she went checked on him came back home to her place. She said he's acting like a big baby wow you are a cold hearted witch.
She treated me differently than she does with him, I don't think he can match her emotional needs he doesn't understand her. I under stood her no I'm not a BPD but I'm always in tune with peoples emotions. From the day we met she was comfortable around me, when I hurt her feelings she got mad she would be really hurt and asked for an apology.
She's well aware she destroys men, she bragged about the damage she did to her previous BF before me. Did she do any damage to me? she did add stress to my already stressful life as I was contending with a lot of BS at work I was suffering from job burnout.
I did end up cutting her off completely she went crazy she didn't like the fact I ended our friendship I got tired of her taking out her unhappiness on me. She was stressed with her BF then when we started fighting she was stress eating she gained quite a bit of weight.
The guy she's with must know he's not doing when I seen him a month ago I just shook my head he wouldn't talk to me. He's never had any success with woman this BPD is his first girl friend, I seen him around woman he couldn't get women to talk to him. Now that she's living with him he's going to be pushed over the edge. You can't put your body though that much stress without serious damage, stress almost killed me.
I'm doing great I've recovered from the stress damage, I'm not dealing with job burnout anymore, I'm moving forward in life. I've heard through the grape vine the BPD ex can't stand it that I'm doing better than she is. I strive to be successful been that way all my life, failure isn't an option.
She's turned her current BF into a 300 pound man he's probably sporting 40 inch plus pants. His blood pressure is high his face is red as a tomato, face full of wrinkles, hair falling out. No man his age should look like that, pretty sad to think I knew what he was before he met her. I seen it unfold over the duration of the relationship when I was around. One day he will be driving to work and end up having a heart attack in his car.
I doubt she will come back around to me she knows what I look like today, back in my prime, healthy and stress free. When she first met me I was run ragged at work I was far from being in prime heath, I didn't like the way I looked, stress takes it's toll.
