Back Here Again

[Echo87]

I snooped his phone. I'm aware of what a total breach of trust this is.
But he dropped his phone in my daughter's room last night, and she found it when it rang this morning, a call from a woman who's name I didn't recognize, someone he'd never mentioned before. So I unlocked it, and noticed he had messages on Kik from yet another woman, or possibly the same one. She lives in the States, we're from Canada. There weren't a lot of messages, it appears he regularly deleted them, none of them were sexual, but it seems he's been in contact with her for some time. I feel so hurt. Here I am, busting my ass to bring in an income, and he's chatting away with some woman because she "can always make him smile". I try so ___ing hard, yet he's looking elsewhere for his happiness? Yet I can't address this without admitting that I snooped. I shouldn't have looked I guess. Would've been better off not knowing.

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[Meili]

I'm sorry that you find yourself back here again Echo. 

I have some experience with snooping too. You're right, it didn't go well. Admitting that I snooped made it easy for my ex to turn the tables on me and make me the bad guy in all of it.

The underlying problem does seem to need to be addressed though. What are your plans for dealing with it?